The kind of parenting that works
There are many different kinds of parenting. Although each parent will find their own style, there is one approach to parenting that the research has consistently shown to be most effective: Authoritative Parenting.
It is important not to confuse this with authoritarian parenting - a very ineffective approach which often pits parents against the children (ie. My way or the highway). Authoritative Parenting is characterized by:
High levels of responsiveness to the child
High Warmth & Open Affection
An acceptance of the child’s feelings and individuality
Parent set limits on the child’s misbehavior, but are accepting of the child’s feelings. An example of this: I understand that you are angry, but people are not for hitting.
Children of authoritative parents grow up to be more successful, cooperative, self-reliant, capable, and energetic. They do better in adult relationships and are better parents themselves.